Hint: It’s not what you say.
Ever been asked to say a few things about yourself? Perhaps you said you’re a good communicator, attentive to details, or a team player. The point being, we all define ourselves in a certain way.
Here’s the paradox, though; It’s not what you say that is an accurate representation of who you are, but rather what you show yourself to be. That’s how people judge you. They respond to the image you project. As such, it’s critical to focus on what you do rather than what you say.
If you want to sell yourself to the world in an authentic…
So you can get a second and third one.
I sat there shivering all evening. My skimpy dress didn’t suit the weather. Being cold and uncomfortable meant I didn’t enjoy it. Meanwhile, my warmly dressed date seemed to enjoy his salmon immensely. It hit me: I had dressed to impress at the expense of my comfort. A first-date mistake I never repeated.
In addition to dressing comfortably, keeping your phone away, keeping time, and staying away from too much booze, here are some other fundamentals to ensure you have an awesome first date:
1. Learn Your Date’s Passion Beforehand.
First dates can be awkward. Butterflies fluttering in your belly, it’s not easy to keep a…
Simple tips for finding your lover online.
At the mention of Tinder, most people roll their eyes. Yet, the reality is that online dating works. Facts show that more than half of Americans (54%) report that relationships which start on dating apps and websites are just as successful as those that begin in person.
Great news for the single-and-searching folks!
But did you know that more men than women use online dating platforms? Clearly, there are more bees than flowers in the dating scene. What does this mean for a guy? …
How to avoid dead-end relationships.
Starting strong doesn’t necessarily mean finishing strong as far as relationships are concerned. At one point, he busts your phone with flirtatious calls and sexy messages. Your mailbox never stops pinging. Fireworks everywhere.
And then…
The flames of attraction die down. A different type of wind starts to blow. Something feels off. Although he doesn’t actually say anything, his actions speak louder. In the dating game, women find themselves in this mean game of emotional chess all the time.
And being emotional beings, our first reaction is to find fault within ourselves. “Was it something I said or did?”
It…
Key traits that make a woman incredibly desirable.
There’s no shortage of available-and-ready-to-commit high-quality men in the world. They’re at your local supermarket, the train station, your gym, and online. At times, they’re the guys seated next to you on the plane.
And yet, according to statistics from UN Women, the number of single ladies continues to rise with more women staying single until their late forties.
Why?
This is a question with a boatload of answers but from personal experience and learning through my friends’ lives, one thing is clear: The modern woman is single because she’s selective. Any type of guy just won’t cut it for…
Because the truth is the most liberating force of all.
No one likes to live a lie. Yet many people are living a lie. They bury their head in the sand because they are not ready to deal with the pain that comes from embracing the truth.
Yet the reality is, as painful as the truth is, it’s the most liberating force of all. So buckle up, it’s time to take a trip to the dark side. Not because I don’t care. I really do. But because of two reasons:
One: good things often come from painful places. Two: what’s left untreated only gets worse.
At times…
Self-discovery sets you on a path to do things differently.
I’m still looking for someone who can confidently say they know themselves fully. I’m yet to find one. But I’ve met many people who are on the journey of understanding themselves better. Every day, they recognize a trait, a strength, an element in their character they never knew they possessed.
Chances are, you’re one of them.
Here’s the thing; every discovery sets you on a path to do things differently. At times you notice it. At times you don’t. If you want to evaluate whether you’re doing an excellent job of knowing yourself better, check out these factors.
Sticking to Your Convictions.
For many…
How to create a great relationship with money.
Most people love money even if they pretend not to care about it. I’ve been there. But there comes a time when you have to honor your core truth no matter who thinks otherwise. You have to think for yourself and quit suppressing your desires because that’s what living authentically means.
So I started digging into money matters, trying to understand why some people make money easily while others struggle. I began teaching myself how to expand my financial base and how to avoid being broke. When you stop worrying about money, you can focus on doing things you enjoy.
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How to feel confident enough to showcase your work to the world.
It’s hard to feel confident in your work when you’re surrounded by experts. When striving for perfection is the order of the day. In the digital economy, you need to put your work out there before people can buy into it. On the one hand, it’s so easy — one click of a button does the trick.
On the other hand, it’s an uphill climb that presents a set of challenges. The most prominent being the unworthiness that stems from seeing your work as imperfect. …
You don’t need a lover to make your life an amazing adventure.
“Single” is an opportunity to live life on your own terms and not apologize.” ― Mandy Hale.
I did some pretty crazy things when I was unattached. Some I’m proud of, others not so much. But there was something to be learned in each one. You need to do certain things when you’re single for the experience, exposure, and lessons they teach you.
Your life’s dynamics change when you introduce a relationship, marriage, and babies. Let’s sample a few things you’re likely to regret not doing when you’re single.
Meandering in the Dating Scene.
There’s a phase in every single person’s life where you’re meandering…
Leah Njoki
Dreamer&Fitness Enthusiast | Helping you find love and create a healthy& awesome relationship | Blog: ownyourspark.com
