Hint: It’s not what you say.
Ever been asked to say a few things about yourself? Perhaps you said you’re a good communicator, attentive to details, or a team player. The point being, we all define ourselves in a certain way.
Here’s the paradox, though; It’s not what you say that is an accurate representation of who you are, but rather what you show yourself to be. That’s how people judge you. They respond to the image you project. As such, it’s critical to focus on what you do rather than what you say.
If you want to sell yourself to the world in an authentic…
You don’t need a lover to make your life an amazing adventure.
“Single” is an opportunity to live life on your own terms and not apologize.” ― Mandy Hale.
I did some pretty crazy things when I was unattached. Some I’m proud of, others not so much. But there was something to be learned in each one. You need to do certain things when you’re single for the experience, exposure, and lessons they teach you.
Your life’s dynamics change when you introduce a relationship, marriage, and babies. Let’s sample a few things you’re likely to regret not doing when you’re single.
Meandering in the Dating Scene.
There’s a phase in every single person’s life where you’re meandering…
The subtle ways you’re disrespecting yourself without realizing it
We all crave respect. Respect allows you to live a life of dignity, freedom, and authenticity. You demand respect from others.
But do you ever stop and ask yourself whether you respect the person on the other side of the mirror?
Telling lies, allowing people to mistreat you, putting others before you, giving until you run on empty are all clear signs that you’re disrespecting yourself. Other times, it’s deeper and more subtle.
So let’s sample a few ways you disrespect yourself without realizing it.
You Don’t Have Boundaries or Don’t Enforce Them.
Boundaries are healthy and extremely important if you want others to respect you. Here’s the…
You attract what you are.
It’s one thing to cruise through life wishing and wanting to have something or to be someone. It’s another thing to reach out and get it. It sounds simple, and yet plenty of people remain stuck in the first boat. They convince themselves that their desires don’t matter much, even though the constant itch never goes away.
They demonize those who have what they want because they don’t know how to manage their feelings of inadequacy. The reality is that you can never fake your core truth no matter how many facts you make up to counter it. …
Tips to help you feel less anxious on your next flight.
With the rollout of the vaccine, the world is slowly opening up like a flower. We’re starting to re-discover the things we loved doing before the virus encased us in our homes. For most people, flying tops the list. Flying is the thing, and yet, there’s a misconception that flying is dangerous.
It’s not surprising that one in three Americans is either afraid or anxious about flying. Yet, you’re more likely to die from being hit by a truck on your way to Starbucks than from a plane crash. …
Here’s how you’ll know you’ve changed.
If you ever want to know whether you’re growing as a person, observe your reactions to the teeny-weeny daily situations. Like your cell phone going flat when you’re expecting a phone call. Or how you speak to someone immediately after you’ve disagreed with another person.
These little clues are mirrors, showing you hues and shades of your personality that you’d not normally see. It’s these little clues that signify how much you’ve changed, that you’re shedding your former self and inventing a version.
For example, you know you’ve changed when you’re not afraid of looking stupid. …
Knowing the truth reveals power, freedom, and autonomy.
If you ask any high-value woman how she manages to stand by her truth, she’ll tell you it’s because she’s learned to detach from the lies she told herself in the past. As early as your childhood, you start assembling these little lies that shape what you believe to be true about life, how you internalize your struggles, and how you relate with others.
If those lies aren’t exposed, you settle for a life that’s beneath what you’re capable of living. But when they are replaced with the truth? Alas, you realize you have more power, freedom, and autonomy over…
Two options for dealing with an unfulfilling relationship.
No one enters a relationship expecting to go around in circles. You go in hoping that your lover will want you as much as you want them, that you’ll still be holding hands when you’re old and grey, watching the sun go to sleep on the golden horizon. It’s a lovely dream.
Yet, sometimes, we hold onto it for so long that we fail to see when it loses its beauty and slowly morphs into lingering dissatisfaction. …
How to know what topic turns her on.
Seasons have changed.
There was a time when all you needed to do to impress a lady was single-handedly build a house with sticks, ward off a lion or return to the cave bloodstained, a deer dangling on your shoulders. Seeing you this way made her knees weak. She knew you were the one. She’d be safe, protected, and provided for.
Then something happened.
She became a feminist. She found ways to care and provide for herself. As soon as a craving hit her tastebuds, she made a simple reservation, and within the hour, she’d be savoring her delicious meal…
Discomfort and growth have always been locked in a dance.
Every good thing comes from discomfort. A baby. A dream. A victory.
Discomfort and growth have always been locked in a dance. Our ancestors knew that without putting themselves in the line of danger, they’d starve to death. Yet with every bite of the barbequed deer, they knew the momentary satisfaction was short-lived. Tomorrow would come, and they’d have to put themselves in danger. Again.
Notice a common theme here?
Nothing good comes from comfort. In fact, few things jerk our metaphorical knees like life’s harshest truths. …
Leah Njoki
Dreamer&Fitness Enthusiast | Helping you find love and create a healthy awesome relationship | Blog: ownyourspark.com
