Hint: It’s not what you say.
Ever been asked to say a few things about yourself? Perhaps you said you’re a good communicator, attentive to details, or a team player. The point being, we all define ourselves in a certain way.
Here’s the paradox, though; It’s not what you say that is an accurate representation of who you are, but rather what you show yourself to be. That’s how people judge you. They respond to the image you project. As such, it’s critical to focus on what you do rather than what you say.
If you want to sell yourself to the world in an authentic way, focus on these four really small things because they say a lot about you. …
Let these things go so you can grow.
At 86, my father-in-law has great self-esteem. I visited him after the lockdown restrictions were lifted and he was still the same jovial and upbeat guy he’s always been, despite being locked up in an aged care facility for the last two years. I mistakenly thought he’d be depressed because for nine months during the lockdown, he didn’t see family. Not even his wife.
Curious, I asked how he stays so resilient, upbeat, and positive all the time.
After swallowing the bite of his vegemite toast, he responded, “Well, young lady…I learned a long time ago that as a barrister, I needed to cultivate good self-esteem if I was to represent my clients successfully.” …
Here’s how to identify and change them.
We are our greatest saboteurs. On the one hand, we want to grow, stretch ourselves as far as possible, and create something phenomenal with our lives. On the other hand, we tear ourselves apart with our behaviors. We’re experts at getting in our own way.
We’re like a snake chasing its own tail.
The good news? You can reverse this trend and begin to move your life upward. No more back and forth. But it all starts by nailing down the precise behaviors limiting your growth. As my super-smart teacher used to say, you can’t change what you don’t know.
If you’re finally ready to stop chasing your own tail, consider this list of behaviors because they may be limiting your growth. …
Don’t sacrifice your creativity for money.
I’ve made good money writing on Medium. A few articles took off in a gust of wind. Even I was surprised. It was a real ego booster. Once I came down from that mountain, I kept writing. But as I continued, I began to notice something that wasn’t there when I first started writing on the platform.
It was this constant pressure to write the “right” articles. Articles that people want to click. Articles that break the internet. Articles that are fit for publications. Articles that rake in the moolah. …
How to win the war with yourself.
What a relief! 2021 is officially here. We made it. We get a clean slate, a chance to shake ourselves off the dust and resurrect our half-dead dreams. Because 2020 really did a big one on us. And although our problems are far from over, we can’t be any more grateful to rid ourselves of the stench of a crappy 2020.
And what a better way to do this than to start on a clean slate, right? If you’re anything like me, I’m guessing that by now, you’ve probably bought yourself a pretty pink (or yellow?) …
Knowing what you don’t want, can help you get what you want.
At the young age of 26, Michaelangelo, the famous Italian artist, was faced with a huge challenge: To carve out the statue of David. The statue of David! How on earth was he ever going to do that? Yet, he breezed through the highly complex assignment, to create one of his most spectacular masterpieces.
I imagine that many a folk chased him down, craving a slice of his secret prowess. “This is magnificent! How on earth did you know how to sculpt this?” Asking as they felt the gleaming white marble statue with their hands. To which the Italian artist simply replied, “It is easy. …
How to make your relationship sizzle.
At this point in my relationship, I can honestly say that I’m happy. I’m with the right person, and I’ve discovered the relationship dynamics that work for us. Now, before you stamp “braggart” on my forehead, please hear me out. I have a pretty good reason for saying this.
Believe me, I know how it feels to be in a miserable marriage. It’s like standing on the edge of a cliff where your dream of basking in blissful romance seems dead. And the future dark and bleak. The stress wrecks your physical and emotional health big time.
And the longer you hold on, the more toxicity kills you. It’s like ingesting a slow-killing poison. You don’t realize how it diminishes and sucks the life out of you until you’re in too deep. So to experience the sunny side of real love? Now that isn’t something I take lightly at all. And neither should you. …
Strategies to help you get through the dark days.
“I miss her every day. I’ve never cleaned out her closet. I’m not there yet. I want to keep her memories as alive as long as I possibly can. She was the woman I adored. Although she’s been gone a year, the pain is still raw. When the cruel arm of death snatched her away, it ripped my heart into shreds.” Jack wrote these words in a social media post.
Last Wednesday was precisely one year since a tragic road accident robbed Jack of the love of his life. Trying to come to terms with his loss has been a roller coaster ride of mixed emotions. …
How to know if your goals are worth chasing.
In his thought-provoking masterpiece, The Light in the Heart, Roy T. Bennett, writes, “Goals are the road maps that guide you to your destination.” Goals are the stepping stones that can help you achieve your purpose in life. Like many people, you probably have clearly defined goals.
But did you know that merely having a goal isn’t enough? What’s most important is knowing the validity and effectiveness of those goals. Because following your goals blindly is a waste of valuable time, energy, and resources.
Do you often second-guess yourself? Do you feel as if you’re running the hamster wheel of ambition? …
How to accomplish more in a short time.
Do you ever feel as if you never have enough time in your day? Are you always busy but never meet your deadlines? Do you get to the end of the week with a backlog because you can’t execute tasks quickly and effectively? Are you constantly stressed due to incomplete work?
You wonder: How do some people achieve so much when we all have 24 hours a day? They seem focused and on top of their game at work despite having kids and personal responsibilities. The truth? These people aren’t special.
They’re not smarter or less overwhelmed by life’s obligations than you. They’ve just formed winning habits to maximize their productivity and manage stress. As such, they are successful and lead amazing lives because they have more free time to spend with loved ones. …
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