Ever been asked to say a few things about yourself? Perhaps you said you’re a good communicator, attentive to details, or a team player. The point being, we all define ourselves in a certain way. Here’s the paradox, though; It’s not what you say that is an accurate representation of who you are, but rather what you show yourself to be. That’s how people judge you. They respond to the image you project. As such, it’s critical to focus on what you do rather than what you say. If you want to sell yourself to the world in an authentic…
You’re at a work event. David compliments the attention to detail in your presentation. A day later, you hear that Judgemental James is spewing nasty comments about your communication skills. Really James!
Question: Which one do you think is likely to stick with you the longest? Yea, It’s a no-brainer.
It doesn’t matter what someone says about you because it only hurts you if you let it. However, it seems that we’re experts at belittling ourselves and negating the compliments that others give us. We’re more likely to highlight our imperfections and flaws more than embrace our positive attributes.
If you want to be successful at anything, you have to learn the ropes. That’s a fact. It applies to everything in our lives, relationships especially. After years of waiting for the right person to come along — and kissing many frogs while at it — I finally realized that the right person wouldn’t show up as I expected.
He wouldn’t be placed by the roadside, packaged in a cute box with a ribbon on it, just waiting for me to whisk him away and take him home. Nope. He would show up as an imperfect human, just like me…
“He’s never stopped,” Kat said, avoiding my eyes, trying to hide the embarrassment that filled the space between us. I was tempted to ask, “Why are you still with him after all these years?” But the wisdom of being a woman told me otherwise. So I chose silence and put my hand on hers.
The school of life has taught me that it’s easier to give advice when you’re not on the receiving end. I’ve also learned that once you’ve said what you need to, it should be enough. Hammering it doesn’t mean someone will buy into it. …
Most people think they have all the time in the world, until one day, they wake up and realize they don’t. Because they waste the very time they claim not to have, or they fail to figure out how to get the most of the time they do have.
So, when the whistle gets blown, their potential, dreams, and ambitions are left untapped. Succumbing to this fate terrifies me. A lot.
On the other side of the spectrum, are folks bettering their lives and smashing one great goal after another. When you see them, you realize they’re just normal people…
Several months ago, I wrote an article about the little things that say a lot about us. I think it resonated with a wide audience because we’re all on a journey of self-discovery, and the image we project to others matters a lot because we’re judged by it.
I’m a sucker for love. The other day, a thought sprung in my mind; “Hmmm…. Isn’t knowing the people we choose to love as equally important as knowing ourselves?” You see, emotions have a way of overriding logic, and that’s often when relationships hell break loose. …
Do you ever feel like you could do more with your life? Do you imagine transforming into the powerful and fantastic person you’ve always dreamt of? Do you wish you could conquer fear and do some pretty awesome stuff?
Most of us can relate to these deep longings which we never live up to. Why? Because putting yourself out there is tough. Brutal.
Let me tell you a story.
I cruised through my teenage years with a very negative self-image, making it difficult to interact with other kids. That, coupled with the fact that I’m an introvert, made me awkward…
It all started as a bright-eyed little girl, desperate for perfect grades. And yet, for the life of me, I couldn’t hack maths. Somehow, numbers gave me a brain freeze. At 25, I tasted the bitter ashes of failure when I found myself divorced, broke, and lost young woman dating all the wrong dudes.
With my self-esteem only a hair above the flat line, I became entangled in toxic friendships. A few years went by in a blur. Fortunately, before I could dig myself deeper into the hole, something shifted. …
“If it is to be, then it is up to me.” William H. Johnsen
Highly accountable people are rare to find nowadays. We want everything done fast, much like our fancy microwave meals. So we’re unable to cultivate the commitment necessary to follow through with the things that move the needles in our lives.
We’ll do anything to avoid walking the hot coals of personal responsibility, so we resort to shifting blame. We don’t know what we stand for, so we’re swayed left and right by any passing trend. Perhaps William H. Johnsen knew we’d find ourselves living this way…
“Do you have a booking?”
“Unfortunately, no, Sally,” I responded, my faint smile attempting to mask my embarrassment.
“Alrighty, I’m gonna ask you to wait a couple of minutes while I let those with a booking through. If there are no shows, I’ll let you know.” Sally said, her long fingers running through the long list of reservations.
“No worries.”
As Florence and I stood on the side, I thought, Maybe we should try a different restaurant… Nah. I’ve wanted to dine here for the longest time. We’ll just chill.
A few minutes later…
“How about the corner table?”
Oh……
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