Five Things Emotionally Abused People Need to Understand to Heal Completely
I wish I could say you’ll walk away and never remember that person ever again.
If you’ve been through a divorce, sexual abuse, childhood trauma, or a toxic relationship with anyone — parent, boss, or partner, it’s safe to say you’ve experienced some emotional abuse.
As a divorced person, I’ve realized that emotional abuse sits between two opposite dimensions: Catastrophizing and diminishing.
Victims often catastrophize, while onlookers and people close to the victims diminish it.
Meaning the victim gives it too much emotional and mental energy (Hey, I’m not judging. I’ve been there too), and everyone else thinks,
“Okay, you’ve mulled on this for far too long. Is this the hill you will die on? Move on already.”
These two — catastrophizing and diminishing can make it incredibly difficult for a victim to heal quickly and completely.
This is a good place to break down what it means to go through emotional abuse.
According to a team of experts who work with individuals struggling with depression and mental health, you’re emotionally abused if:
You feel confused, scared, and not like yourself when surrounded by a spouse or family member.
You doubt yourself whenever you have conversations with them.
You feel that without them, you are nothing and can’t accomplish anything.
You lose your sense of independence and self-worth.
You feel trapped in a relationship.
Thankfully, there are five things you can do to help yourself heal.
